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Autor(en) / Beteiligte

• L’Abate, Luciano
• Weeks, Gerald R.
• Peterson, Colleen M.
• Fife, Stephen T.

Titel

Intimacy and Sharing Hurts

Ist Teil von

• Techniques for the Couple Therapist, 2016, p.151-154

Auflage

1

Ort / Verlag

Routledge

Erscheinungsjahr

2016

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Quelle

Alma/SFX Local Collection

Beschreibungen/Notizen

• Hurt feelings are a common part of intimate relationships. Hurt feelings may be unspoken, avoided, repressed, or suppressed, and couples presenting for therapy are usually having difficulty sharing their joys and hurts. There is a reciprocal link between intimacy and hurt. Intimacy involves a number of factors, but one of the most important is being able to share hurt feelings. Intimacy involves vulnerability, neediness, and fallibility. Some couples are so fearful and socialized not to discuss hurt that they will substitute other feelings that lead to significant couple conflict, such as anger, rage, criticism, contempt, rejection, and so on. However, when one partner is able to share the hurts they have experienced, and the other provides validation through non-defensive and non-judgmental expressions of empathy, partners will experience increased emotional closeness and connection. There are two ways to share hurts with an intimate partner. One involves doing a written homework assignment, and the other is done face-to-face in the session.